My healing starts......

4/7/2008
I found this post at the "thenestbabies.com" under Pregnancy Loss:I'd like to share an email my BFF sent me after hearing about my m/c. It was the most beautiful words I'd ever read and helped comfort me. Just to share a little background my mother passed away when I was 12 (there is reference to that in the following letter). Also my cousin suffered 2 m/c, who is referred to also in the letter. I hope you enjoy.God can make good out of any situation…its brought you closer to your husband, you now have a new sense of empathy to other’s who have gone through the same thing…Heather, although she too has gone through this pain, can now use her experience to help you through your own sadness and that is the beauty of the humanness that God has given us. No matter how small a child is, they can always teach us about ourselves and lessons in life that are so profound. You will all someday meet and love on your child when you’re in heaven and that is what is so amazing about the promise that the Lord had given to us!! When Jesus arose, he conquered death; it has no hold over us ANYMORE!!!! The baby’s life is just BEGINNING!!!!! Praise the Lord!!!! Can you imagine the joy and happiness your child is experiencing right now????? I know that your mom is loving on her grandbaby. What a blessing you have given her. I hope that these words give you some amount of comfort.... Don’t give up on your dream of having more children…you two have so much love to give and it is ok that you shared this with people…we are to share in each other’s joy and sorrow, so never feel bad about that part, ok?
I started to cry when I read this. This comforts me in so many ways. I am in the same situation except my grandma died in August and It just gave me such great comfort to know that our baby is with my grandma and Jeff's grandparents as well. I also have a close friend, Lilan, who has suffered from 3 miscarriages but yet she has 2 beautiful childern afterwards. She gives me great hope that everything will be okay. She has also helped me in so many ways to help me say good-bye. It was funny though.. weeks before all this, she just told me that she wanted to help others who suffer through miscarriages. Maybe her job isnt to get a job to help others but maybe its was to help me. I thank you Lilian from the bottom of my heart!